You Get What You Pay For

So when you are on a free site ... well, pay for nothing, get nothing. I went on a date the other evening with a very attractive guy. We tried to find a coffee place, they were all closed so we ended up at a bar, that was pretty crowded so we walked to a restaurant down the street, they sat us and drinks turned into dinner and before I knew it I had spent much more time and money on a not so nice guy.

Now, I have had a lot of jobs and hobbies in my life. I have meet and been "friends" with people from tons of different backgrounds. If you meet enough theatre people, enough musicians, work in enough restaurants and random retail jobs, and have to get along with everybody...not only do you learn to make friends anywhere but nothing that anybody says will shock you. For example, when you learn that one of the guys you work with is an actual drug dealer...most of what tumbles out of the average guys mouth seems to pale in comparison.

I bring this up because I am sitting across from this guy and he is just letting stuff roll off his tongue left and right. I just keep thinking that even though I'm not really phased by it, I am certainly not impressed and can't help thinking "holy crap, well I can never introduce you to any of my friends or family". Then he dropped a bombshell about having been treated for an STD. And I am forced to ask myself this question...why on earth did I stay? Why didn't I get up right then and leave? Why am I so afraid of hurting these strangers feelings that I am willing to drop $20 on a salad and a glass of wine with some complete jerk that brooded the entire evening about how his life had gone wrong?

I quit.

Not dating...I'll still date if someone asks me but I'm done with the free sites. I had been operating under the premise that since I know I am a person of quality that the law of averages would ensure that someone else of quality would be on the very same site just waiting for little ole me! Not the case...at all. Incorrect premise! Time to regroup and move on.

Letting Me Down Easy

I had been dating a very sweet guy. Things had been going great for about a month. And then he fell off the map for a week. I wake up to an "I don't want to see you anymore" email.

Well sh*t.

First of all, I kick myself because I've been making excusses for him in my head. WHY??? He hasn't talked to me for a week and I'm the one saying "oh he's probably just exhausted from work"??? Come on!! I've read He's Just Not That Into You. I know that guys will find ways to talk to girls they are interested in, come hell or high water. I knew that something like this was coming when I hadn't heard from him in days.

Second...and email? One of many things that I hate about technology is that it allows guys to be absolute cowards. And to add insult to injury, his reason to stop seeng me is that I remind him of an ex-girlfriend. Really? Really?? So hung up about this ex that you can't seem to muster up some balls to just call me and tell me that you don't want to date me? You've got to throw that stellar line in there?

This is not the first time a guy has broken up with me online. But this will be the first time that he gets exactly what he deserves. I am not going to respond to him...ever again. I see no need to email back, text back, write back, call back or send a carrier pidgeon. He doesn't want anything more to do with me? Fine. Done.